Todays is Friday the 13th… some consider it LUCKY… some UNLUCKY… I believe you create your own luck.
This is like my motto in life… which is why I despise this whole “entitlement” mentality… that some people are more fortunate than others… NONSENSE!
Anyways, this is not the topic of today’s post, but it did make me think about getting the things you want you want… and why so many people are stuck, IN SPITE OF doing the things they’re supposed to do.
You know… reading the books, writing down goals, visualizing, and yes even taking action as I wrote about in my last post.
It’s something I think everyone struggles with at one time or another… I know I did, until I finally realized what the problem is.
And it’s really pretty simple, yet I find that’s it’s one of the hardest things to discipline yourself to do.
And if you’ll be completely honest with yourself, you’ll agree that it takes an enormous amount of mental discipline to stay on track… ESPECIALLY when things are not going all that well.
What is it?
It’s focusing ONLY on what you want… and NOT thinking about the things you don’t want.
The first part is easy.
You want a new car, home, more money, bigger team…. so you paint mental images, thinking about those things.
We all know that.
And if you don’t… well now you do ;).
But it’s the 2nd part that gets almost everyone… at least for some time.
It’s the little voice whispering fear, doubt and worry into your ear.
You say… “I want to make a $100,000 a year”… but then the little voice starts naming all the reasons why you can’t or won’t.
You want to be a better leader… but then you start thinking – “what if no one listens to me or believes me?”
You create an a new ad or a marketing campaign… and instantly start doubting – “what if it doesn’t work AGAIN?”
You with me?
I know I’m not the only one that ever had these thoughts… we all do.
Problem is, as I’ve discovered long ago that these thoughts fuel your beliefs… which are like little programs running in the background DICTATING ultimately what ends up happening.
Bottom line is… you attract THAT what you think about it.
And when you think about the things you DON’T want… guess what?
You’re thinking about them and you’re attracting them to you.
I believe THAT is what’s standing in the way between your and your goals. When you can eliminate fear. doubt, and worry… you can have everything you want.
I know this all common sense and chances are you’ve heard it before… but as is with everything… are you actually doing this?
One of the worst 2 words you can say in the English language (or any language for that matter)… after I CAN’T is… I KNOW.
Something I’m trying to teach my daughter.
We all KNOW what we need to do… but it’s NOT what you know, it’s what you DO.
Which is why we have a society full of educated derelicts.
Case in point.
A few years ago I had a manual sitting on my desk about Google Adwords, and a relative of mine was glancing at it.
He actually had a degree in Advertising and was looking for a job, looking to do something online.
I tried explaining to him that Google is very tricky, and there are things you need to know about advertising there, etc….
His reply with a big smirk… “I think with my $50K degree, I can figure out how create ads on Google.”
4 years later… he’s still looking for a job.
But it’s the same in our business… you might KNOW what you need to do and HOW you need to think.
That’s not the issue… it’s the application of that knowledge that’s the issue.
Here’s a little technique I learned from Dr. Robert Anthony in regards to training yourself to think about what you want and NOT about what you don’t want.
It’s called a “flipswitch”.
The minute you catch yourself doubting, worrying or having any counterproductive thoughts… you just FLIP THE SWITCH and change your thought to what you actually want.
See, it turns out that you can only hold ONE thought a time, so when you REPLACE the negative thought with a positive one, you instantly change your focus.
And when you change your focus, you change how you feel and that’s when the magic happens.
It’s easy to slide and go into a negative state… but it doesn’t do you any good. So you might as well practice this little technique and the moment you catch yourself sliding…
… just FLIP THE SWITCH.
It works like gangbusters.
But remember, just because you KNOW about it… doesn’t mean it’ll do you any good.
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