When I was 17, after one year of working in a couple of jewelry places, I decided with a buddy of mine that we’re good enough to start our own jewelry making and repair business on the side.
This was a really DUMB idea, that is probably one of the best things I’ve done. I’ll tell you why in just a minute.
There’s a dirty four letter F-Word that I believe is responsible for more stress, worries, heartaches than just about anything else.
It stops people DEAD IN THEIR TRACKS and kills any chance of success.
It robs you of energy and motivation.
It destroys momentum and repels money, wealth and abundance.
It’s a silent killer that creeps up on you and makes you start doubting about yourself and your abilities.
This four letter word is FEAR!
And it’s my opinion that it is THE NUMBER ONE cause of failure.
Fear of failure.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of change.
Fear of making the wrong decision. (BTW a wrong decision is better than NO decision.)
Kids have no fear (mostly.)
But the older we get, we let our “experiences” get in the way and we start fearing failure. ESPECIALLY if you’ve failed at something before. And who hasn’t?
It seems like the more you know, the more you become reluctant to do something before making sure all your t’s are crossed and i’s are dotted.
It’s important to pay attention to details and double check everything, but successful entrepreneurs (at least everyone that I’ve ever met), live by the “Ready, Fire, Aim” code.
Oh they too have FEARS.
We all do.
But, they don’t let them stand in the way of success.
They blast through them by simply taking ACTION.
But what if you fail?
What did you learn from it?
Pick yourself up and do it again. Try a different way.
So many people are scared to pull the trigger and take action, they’d rather sit and rationalize about the possibilities.
But you know what?
You will NEVER learn and succeed by rationalizing and thinking too much about it.
So back when I was 17 (and fearless ;-D), and had this DUMB idea of starting a jewelry business, if I would have thought everything through I would have NEVER even started.
But instead we bought thousands of dollars worth of equipment.
Rented a little office for our shop.
Made a ring where I set small diamonds in.
And then I put on a nice suit and started driving around every jewelry store in town, showcasing my ONE ring, asking them if they had any jobs we can do. At 17!
Crazy, but one store in downtown Birmingham, which is a really nice upscale area, said yes. And gave me some diamonds to set for them.
As far as I can remember this was the first business success I’ve experienced, where I started something from scratch and created something out of thin air, just by taking action.
A year later, we went out of business, because the overhead and paying off the equipment was bigger than our orders.
At the time I looked at all that as failure. And my relatives pretty much all said, “we told you so.”
But later I realized that it’s one of the best things I’ve done.
I felt inspiration and took action.
Yeah I failed at it, but it taught me that if I wanted to do something I just need to take action. It helped me to start building my belief muscle and mental toughness. CRUCIAL ingredients for success.
Is there a FEAR that’s holding you back from taking some action right now? Today?
I bet there is.
And it’s keeping you stuck, struggling and powerless.
Here are 7 ways you can reclaim your power from one of my favorite books – “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway”:
1. Avoid casting blame on external force for your bad feelings about life. Nothing outside yourself can control your thinking or your actions.
2. Avoid blaming yourself for not being in control. You are doing the best you can and you are on the way to reclaiming your power.
3. Be aware of when and where you are playing the victim role.
4. Familiarize yourself with your biggest enemy – your Chatterbox (the inner critic.) Learn how to replace thoughts of worry and doubt with more empowering ones.
5. Figure out the payoffs that keep you “stuck”. Once you find them, you will probably be able to quickly become “unstuck.”
6. Determine what you want in life and ACT on it. Stop waiting for someone to give it to you. You’ll be waiting a long time.
7. Be aware of the many choices you have in both actions and feelings – in any situation that comes your way. Choose the path that contributes to your growth.
And remember, all the the goodies, the rewards, the money, success and everything you have on your list of goals lies on the other side, when you enter the door, and not let FEAR stop you.
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